7 Days Of Sharing

A close friend of Ankita, Saptarshi Chatterjee recently did a 7 day exercise, where he took on sharing his life vividly with his 1044 WhatsApp contacts. To read all about his experience and how people reacted, head to his blog post: https://medium.com/something-indian/7-days-of-sharing-my-life-vividly-with-1044-whatsapp-contacts-a9d4bbbc4138#.jof4j0vo8

What he did requires a lot of courage and was really inspiring for her. She decided to make a small artwork for each of his 7 shares. 

Illustration: Ankita Shinde

Day 1: Saptarshee's first share was about how a lot of people forward quotes or something motivational but do not share about their life and what they are dealing with. Saptarshee wanted to go beyond his fear of interacting with people and wanted to share his life openly. His intention was that perhaps something might open up for someone in his sharing. He lives in a society with approx. 1000 families and he realized that he has interacted with not more than 30 people. 30 people out of 1000 families! 😱 He has been through some highs and lows and so have several other people in his society. But he never went to speak to anybody during these times. He kept hiding behind conversations like 'What will people think if I talk to them?', 'They will laugh and mock behind my back', 'I don't want people to intrude in my life' etc. He thought he is smart, intelligent and caring but what he actually was being is scared and selfish. Someone who is so engrossed in his own life that he wouldn't even look up from his phone when others are with him in the lift. The impact of living like this was that he felt he is living in an imaginary bubble, having no idea about what his neighbors are dealing with. He has now taken on being open and charismatic for people around him. People in his building, his relatives, old friends. Even autowallas and people who he generally comes across in his daily life. Simply reaching out and talking to them and finding out how they are doing in life. - - -  Isn't life all about beautiful connections after all? ✨❤✨ View full story here.

Day 1:

Saptarshee's first share was about how a lot of people forward quotes or something motivational but do not share about their life and what they are dealing with. Saptarshee wanted to go beyond his fear of interacting with people and wanted to share his life openly. His intention was that perhaps something might open up for someone in his sharing.

He lives in a society with approx. 1000 families and he realized that he has interacted with not more than 30 people. 30 people out of 1000 families! 😱

He has been through some highs and lows and so have several other people in his society. But he never went to speak to anybody during these times. He kept hiding behind conversations like 'What will people think if I talk to them?', 'They will laugh and mock behind my back', 'I don't want people to intrude in my life' etc. He thought he is smart, intelligent and caring but what he actually was being is scared and selfish. Someone who is so engrossed in his own life that he wouldn't even look up from his phone when others are with him in the lift.

The impact of living like this was that he felt he is living in an imaginary bubble, having no idea about what his neighbors are dealing with.

He has now taken on being open and charismatic for people around him. People in his building, his relatives, old friends. Even autowallas and people who he generally comes across in his daily life. Simply reaching out and talking to them and finding out how they are doing in life.
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Isn't life all about beautiful connections after all? ✨❤✨

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Day 2: Saptarshee - "I am clear that only by me sharing about my humanity and my vulnerability, will I be the space in which people will share with me about their life and what they are dealing with." View full story here.

Day 2:

Saptarshee - "I am clear that only by me sharing about my humanity and my vulnerability, will I be the space in which people will share with me about their life and what they are dealing with."

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Day 4: Saptarshee - "My fourth share is related to how I relate to people in my lives. For many years, I have been looking at my dad through a filter. I knew my dad loved me , however, I had 100s of reasons to prove that my dad was someone who wanted to prove me wrong in everything I did. My friends also related to their fathers in similar ways. So I was clear that this is how a child-parent relationship. A relationship of authority. I started enquiring into the impact that my views about my dad had on my relationship with him. I realized that while there was love and respect, there was a barrier in how I related to my dad. That day, I got present to my point of view about him and I realized that it was a point of view that I had created. My dad was not like that.  He was so much more than what I was reducing him to - "Someone who doesn't listen to me and proves me wrong". Once I was able to see beyond my point of view, my father transformed in my eyes from someone who was a disciplinarian to someone who was a middle aged man with immense love for his kids. Since then, I keep getting present to how I relate to people in my life. I keep giving up my judgement and point of view about people. It constantly comes back because that is how I am designed. I train myself to catch when people become good/bad, capable/incapable, right/wrong, smart/dumb etc. etc in my view. I keep dropping my point of views and relate to them not as the past teaches me they are but the possibility they can be coming from the future. If you ever find me relating to you from your past, please hold me to account and remind me of this share." View full story here.

Day 4:

Saptarshee - "My fourth share is related to how I relate to people in my lives. For many years, I have been looking at my dad through a filter. I knew my dad loved me , however, I had 100s of reasons to prove that my dad was someone who wanted to prove me wrong in everything I did. My friends also related to their fathers in similar ways. So I was clear that this is how a child-parent relationship. A relationship of authority. I started enquiring into the impact that my views about my dad had on my relationship with him. I realized that while there was love and respect, there was a barrier in how I related to my dad. That day, I got present to my point of view about him and I realized that it was a point of view that I had created. My dad was not like that.  He was so much more than what I was reducing him to - "Someone who doesn't listen to me and proves me wrong". Once I was able to see beyond my point of view, my father transformed in my eyes from someone who was a disciplinarian to someone who was a middle aged man with immense love for his kids. Since then, I keep getting present to how I relate to people in my life. I keep giving up my judgement and point of view about people. It constantly comes back because that is how I am designed. I train myself to catch when people become good/bad, capable/incapable, right/wrong, smart/dumb etc. etc in my view. I keep dropping my point of views and relate to them not as the past teaches me they are but the possibility they can be coming from the future. If you ever find me relating to you from your past, please hold me to account and remind me of this share."

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Day 5: Saptarshee - "When it comes to causing results in my life, I get attached to the end goal. To cover up my attachment, I start listening to motivational songs/speeches/videos. I start talking or explaining my point of view over and over again. I hide behind big words and my language. Actually, I am just afraid of failing and looking bad. I am afraid of people not liking me. The impact on me is that I frequently miss causing the results I set out to cause. The impact on people around me is that they get drained and confused by my language. What is missing is commitment and contributing to people by achieving what I said I will do." . . . What is it that you are hiding behind when it comes to doing things you have always wanted to do but haven't done so far for x y z reasons? 🙈 View full story here.

Day 5:

Saptarshee - "When it comes to causing results in my life, I get attached to the end goal. To cover up my attachment, I start listening to motivational songs/speeches/videos. I start talking or explaining my point of view over and over again. I hide behind big words and my language. Actually, I am just afraid of failing and looking bad. I am afraid of people not liking me.

The impact on me is that I frequently miss causing the results I set out to cause. The impact on people around me is that they get drained and confused by my language.

What is missing is commitment and contributing to people by achieving what I said I will do."
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What is it that you are hiding behind when it comes to doing things you have always wanted to do but haven't done so far for x y z reasons? 🙈

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Day 6:  Saptarshee - "Whenever someone makes a demand from me it becomes about me. I experience being cornered and alone. I cover it up by being angry at the person who made the demand and make them feel guilty of demanding of me. I have been doing this with my parents for years and recently I also did this with a close friend who made a personal demand a couple of days back. This impacts my relationships specially with people who are family , very close friends and romantic relationships. What I distinguished is that this behavior of mine is usually subconscious and reactive. I react this way because I am afraid of letting people down specially those who I love and who make a demand of me. When I looked back into my past, I realised that the disappointment I felt for myself and my parents when I used to score less in my early school exams is when I started reacting to demands in this way. Distinguishing this behavior of mine has given me freedom to be with demands and be able to take it up or not without making myself or the person wrong. How do you react to demands made by people in your life?" View full story here.

Day 6:

 Saptarshee - "Whenever someone makes a demand from me it becomes about me. I experience being cornered and alone. I cover it up by being angry at the person who made the demand and make them feel guilty of demanding of me. I have been doing this with my parents for years and recently I also did this with a close friend who made a personal demand a couple of days back. This impacts my relationships specially with people who are family , very close friends and romantic relationships.

What I distinguished is that this behavior of mine is usually subconscious and reactive. I react this way because I am afraid of letting people down specially those who I love and who make a demand of me. When I looked back into my past, I realised that the disappointment I felt for myself and my parents when I used to score less in my early school exams is when I started reacting to demands in this way.

Distinguishing this behavior of mine has given me freedom to be with demands and be able to take it up or not without making myself or the person wrong.

How do you react to demands made by people in your life?"

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Day 7: Saptarshee - "It all started off with a 10 minute conversation with a close friend of mine that inspired me to do this. Everytime I shared I put myself and my reputation at risk. I went beyond my fear and I acknowledge myself for doing this. I have been overwhelmed by the responses I have recieved. So many friends, family and acquaintances shared their lives vividly with me. I am moved and inspired by all the sharing that has come my way. Thank you for being who you are - a committed, kind and a patient listener. You contributed to my life and enriched me by allowing me to share and sometimes replying to me. Thank you. I am taking on doing 7 day personal projects that push me beyond my comfort zone and taking risks. I'm clear that beyond our comfort zone lies miracles and magic. In the last eleven days, I went and spoke to the family in my building who was dealing with death. I started a conversation around child sexual abuse with my wider family. I have started sharing my life with my team in my company and a couple of them have started sharing their lives with me. I have completed with a friend who I was looking at through a filter. I have taken on asking everyone in my life to demand from me and to deliver on their demands. Transformation happens in sharing. I love you. Thank you for listening to me." View full story here.

Day 7:

Saptarshee - "It all started off with a 10 minute conversation with a close friend of mine that inspired me to do this.

Everytime I shared I put myself and my reputation at risk. I went beyond my fear and I acknowledge myself for doing this. I have been overwhelmed by the responses I have recieved. So many friends, family and acquaintances shared their lives vividly with me. I am moved and inspired by all the sharing that has come my way. Thank you for being who you are - a committed, kind and a patient listener. You contributed to my life and enriched me by allowing me to share and sometimes replying to me. Thank you.

I am taking on doing 7 day personal projects that push me beyond my comfort zone and taking risks. I'm clear that beyond our comfort zone lies miracles and magic.

In the last eleven days, I went and spoke to the family in my building who was dealing with death. I started a conversation around child sexual abuse with my wider family. I have started sharing my life with my team in my company and a couple of them have started sharing their lives with me. I have completed with a friend who I was looking at through a filter. I have taken on asking everyone in my life to demand from me and to deliver on their demands.

Transformation happens in sharing. I love you. Thank you for listening to me."

View full story here.